Random thoughts on friendship…

I was just kinda thinking…

There are several types of relationships for girls, two of which are friendships with their close friend(s) and relationship with their boyfriend.

As girls, we all long to have a boyfriend, a man, a good one that will always be there and that we will one day marry. If you’re like me, when you don’t have a boyfriend, you have many long, deep conversations with your friend about what you envision this to look like, who you might could see as that man, and whatnot. But in that time when you don’t have a boyfriend, your friend temporarily fills that space in your heart and life to some degree. She is there for you, listens to you, talks to you, cries with and for you, and loves you and you do the same for her.

But what happens when a man, a boyfriend, comes along? She’s suddenly with him. He is the center of her life now, so to speak. She talks to him, listens to him, goes to the movies with him, goes out to eat with him, goes shopping with him, goes to parties with him – everything that the two of you used to do together now they do together. You feel left out, lonely, and even betrayed a little, especially if you don’t have a boyfriend at the time. If you’re a good friend and truly love her, you will not leave her. You will be there for her and listen when they fight and she comes running back to you for comfort and advice.

He may be the one. They may be together forever and your relationship with your friend will never be the same, but they may not be too. They may break up and that is when your friend will need you to be there more than ever, to help her pick up the pieces and move on, to love her just as much as you did before, and for things to go back to the way they used to be.

The sad thing is how things change between our closest friends when a boy comes into our lives, how he changes things, but it is necessary and that is what all us girls rightly long for. It is beautiful to see though, how our closest and dearest friends are still there for us when and if we are single again, ready to pick up right where you left off.

A lot of times the girl with the boyfriend doesn’t even notice that things are not the same between her and her friend anymore and that makes it even harder on the single girl. But if the single girl truly loves her friend, she will always be there anyway, even when it feels like a very one sided relationship.